"I breastfed my kid and I definitely don't look like that."
"Why is that kid standing on a chair?"
"HELL YEAH! Breast is best!"
"Honey, cover your eyes."
"Isn't that kid a little old to be doing that?"
Here's my official response: *yawn*
I'm not shocked, offended, outraged, or impassioned. There's a lot of talk surrounding this cover, and in the Moms-who-Blog circle, its particularly about this cover inciting yet another "mommy war" (which, by the way, is a completely ridiculous term).
The headline reads "Are You Mom Enough?"
Here's the thing. The media is always going to search for a controversy. They're always going to search for one particular area of society to pit against another. Why? Because it sells. It gathers readership, viewership and ad revenue. In this case, it's about an aspect of motherhood and parenting - the Attachment Parenting theory (which MANY of my dearest friends subscribe to on some level.)
You can't really control what the media is going to focus on at any given moment. But you CAN control how you respond to the media.
So, when TIME magazine asks the question "Are You Mom Enough?" with a picture of a beautifully fit, blonde woman breastfeeding her 3-year old, I hope you know that you can respond with a simple "Yes."
I definitely don't look like that, and chances are you don't either. If you're like me, you didn't even breastfeed when your child was an infant, let alone a 3-year old.
But, I know the truth. It's a truth that TIME magazine, or any other media outlet can't take away, regardless of the controversy or conflict they want to impose on me and my peers:
I know that I'm Mom enough for my child.
I'm healthy, I play hard, I try my best to teach him right and wrong, I feed him when he's hungry, put him to bed when he's tired, and make sure his car seat is perfectly secured before turning on the car. Most days, I even make sure he wears pants.
I know this about myself. Sure, there are absolutely days when I question my abilities as a mother - something I'm afraid nobody is immune to - and those days are rough. But one rough day doesn't dictate my worth as a mother. No more than one magazine cover, news story, TV show or blog post can.
So, when everyone gets upset about the media playing the "mommy wars" card, I simply shrug my shoulders, not engage and keep on keepin' on. Not because I don't think that mothers shouldn't speak up about being pitted against each other - I'm tired of it, too. But, they're going to say what they need to in order to sell their product... and it's not a battle that I'm willing to fight anymore.
I just need to keep being Mom Enough to my kid.